We all have a goal that we want to achieve for ourselves. Success in your career or business, happiness, or (if you are reading this website) looking to create that killer body that you can admire in the mirror and turn heads at the beach in your bikini or shirtless with your trunks (fingers crossed for summer 2018), we all have something that gets us up in the morning and drives us. However, with every goal, no matter what it is, it all begins in the mind. In order for us to accomplish anything, we have to think and believe that we can do it.
Will Smith and Henry Ford put it best respectively in their quotes “The first step is you have to say that you can” and “Whether you think you can or you think you can’t, either way, you are right”. Over the past few years since I started exercising, there have been moments when I have looked in the mirror and wondered “what am I doing?”. I would feel down about my body not looking what the way I felt it was supposed to look like after my hard work. However, instead of throwing in the towel, I kept a positive outlook and keep pushing myself because I knew that stopping would ultimately lead to true failure. If you keep persevering and working hard, you will find that holy grail that will lead you to success, and today I’m gonna share with you how to have a positive mindset to help you do just that.
How To Have A Positive Mindset
Do Research and Come Up With A Plan
If you had a similar childhood like me, you looked forward to getting up to watch your Saturday morning cartoons. One of my favorite shows to watch was Jackie Chan Adventures, which featured an animated Jackie Chan taking on the forces of evil. My favorite character was his uncle, an antique shop owner. I’ve always laughed whenever I heard him say his famous lines like “One more thing” or “Uncle has the willies”. However, it’s his other famous line that is not only funny, but very important in working towards something, and that line is “We must do research”. When going about to accomplish something, we can’t just do it haphazardly, we have to figure what is we need to do it and then come up with the best possible plan to complete the task.
When I decided to lose weight, I just figured if I eat small and start working out, everything would fall into place. I didn’t take the time to look up the science behind weight loss or come up with a game plan. For a while, this approached worked out ok, but as you can guess, I stalled pretty quickly and as I mentioned earlier, I got frustrated. It wasn’t until late last year that I figured out what I was doing wrong and what I needed to change. Fast forward to today, I went from struggling to lose pounds to lose 2 pounds per week. I have lost almost 30 lbs so far and my weight still continues to drop. Research and planning are very important, otherwise, we would just be blindly walking into the unknown. Take time to do the groundwork first. Remember, no war or battle has ever been fought without recon and strategy.
Always Believe In Yourself And Don’t Fear Failure
When we were kids, we thought could do anything. Life was filled with endless roads and possibilities. No matter how many times we fell, we just dusted ourselves off and kept going. If you ever learned how to ride a bike, you probably fell a bunch of times. You cried a few tears, but after awhile you, you got back up and continued to learn until riding that became a walk in the park. Somewhere along the line as we were growing up, we were conditioned to believe that every time we fall or mess up, we were failures, and we would get depressed.
I’ve been in the banking field for nearly two years now, and I’ve made my fair share of mistakes. I used to get down on myself pretty hard. Even though it wasn’t the case, every time I messed, it felt like I was the only screw up in the world. However, a co-worker reminded me of a something that I take to heart every day. We are human. As humans, we all make mistakes from time to time, even when we dot our I’s and cross our T’s.
What matters is that we bounce back. The funny thing is that when we fail, we actually make ourselves better. We can take it as an opportunity to reflect and how we can do better for next time. So no matter how many times we mess up, as long as we pick ourselves, learn from it, and keep going, we are on the path to success As P90X’s Tony Horton always says “Do Your Best And Forget The Rest”.
It’s A Marathon, Not A Sprint
The media constantly talks about the lives of celebrities and the world’s elite. We expose ourselves to it so much that we constantly compare our lives to theirs and grow envious. From the outside, there are a lot of people out there that believe that their success happened overnight. They start wondering when they will get “lucky” like them. I’m here to let you know that success is never a matter of luck. The other day, I read an article that contained about 20 success quotes. Two of my favorite came from Steve Jobs and Colin Powell. “If you look really closely, most overnight successes took a long time” and “There are no secrets to success. It is the result of preparation, hard work, and learning from failure”.
We see other people’s accomplishments, but what we don’t see is the work it took to get them there. Looking at professional athletes, we look at time and dedication it took for them to master their craft. Michael Jordan, arguably the best NBA player said: ” I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life and that is why I succeed”. Success is a marathon, not a sprint. The journey is more important than the destination. Working to achieve your goals can get frustrating because of how long it can take. However, think about all that you already have accomplished and be thankful and focus on just getting better each day.
Small Successes Lead To The Bigger Ones
Going back to the point of getting better each day, each day brings you closer and closer to your goals. Since I started the gym and got the hang of managing my diet, I’ve been losing 2 lbs every week. When I made that revelation for the first time, my confidence and motivation level soared and kept on pushing. When we take time to enjoy the little accomplishments, we tend to appreciate the big ones more.
To have a positive mindset is to have a belief and confidence in yourself. I hope that today, you have the drive and motivation to develop yours or to get back on track. Have a positive mindset on life, and you can achieve your greatest goals